Be ever vigilant

 Have you ever had one of those dreams when you feel like you are IN the dream (like it’s really happening), yet at the same time you feel as if you are a bystander watching it happen?  Dreams that seem real can cause you to sit up wide awake, reminding us to be ever vigilant   Depending on whether you consider it a good dream or a bad dream, you may want to go right back to sleep to try and continue the dream, or you may stay awake trying to forget it.

 I had one such dream the other morning.  I say morning because I woke up with it about 4am.  It was very vivid, I could see a dark, worn down house that had been fortified by a fence and a rock wall.  I’m not sure whose house it was, or who lived there.  It was near a street, although it was more of a path or dirt road than a paved busy street.

 I distinctly remember seeing a woman and little girl (assuming her daughter?) bicycling up the road on those older type bikes with baskets on the handle bars.  The woman’s basket had flowers in it.  I believe it must have been getting on to dusk as I reminded them to hurry along and get home safely.

 Once it was dark we (me and whoever else lived in the house) barricaded ourselves in and settled down for the night.

 In the dream, that scene replayed itself, with the woman and little girl kindly smiling as I reminded them to hurry home. Again, as darkness fell we barricaded ourselves in and settled down for the night.  Only, on this night the wolves came. 

                                                     

 The wolves growled and snarled as they tried to crash through the windows of the small house.  All the occupants were awake, huddled together in the middle of the main room, and scared.  Thankfully, the windows held and the wolves could not get in. Eventually, the wolves stopped attacking the house and left, but they left some big black and brown dogs (Rottweilers?) to prowl around the porch.  We could see them pass by the windows, periodically, as a reminder that we were still in danger.

 When the sun came up, the dogs ran off.  It took us a little while to gather up the courage to venture outside.  When we finally did, we saw the damage the wolves had done to our fortifications.  There was a spot in the fence that had been broken through, right next to a spot in the rock wall that had been knocked over into a pile of rubble.

 My first thought was, “We need to go check on the woman and the little girl, to make sure they are unharmed!”  And… that’s when I woke up.

 I wonder what the dream could mean? Could it be a simple reminder that we should remain ever vigilant, on guard, and prepared for bad things to happen?  If we are prepared, we can better ward them off, or deal with them as they come.  What of the lady up the street? Perhaps we need to remind others of the ever present danger of unpleasant possibilities, or just remember to love our neighbors.

 Does this mean we should live in fear?  No.  We need to live a boldly joyful life, with safeguards and reminders so that we are not caught unaware when the wolves try to get in to our lives.

 1 Peter 5:8  - Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour.

*Pam is a Board Certified Advanced Christian Life Coach.

Behaving Badly

I have been working, quite a bit, with children who can behave badly at the drop of a hat.  Perhaps, at first glance, one might think they were in need of discipline, or perhaps they tend to be spoiled brats having tantrums.  Yes, I’ll admit… for some, the first impression might be accurate, but upon further interaction, you may see some of these children are hurt and/or angry… if you take the time to really see them.

I watched one child go into mischief mode, which eventually turned into flipping chairs and tables.  Once the child was calm (which took a bit of time and effort), I asked if we knew what had set them off.  The answer?  Another student needed to see the paper they were copying from and the teacher turned it about an inch diagonally.  That was it.  Strange, because I had witnessed this student willingly share numerous time.  It was not really the paper slant that set them off.

The paper slant was the proverbial straw that broke the camel’s back.  This child had a rough morning at home and was barely keeping their emotions under wraps.  The paper incident was one more frustration that put them over the top.  The hitting, kicking, and curse words were not even really directed at the people who happened to be on the receiving end.  The child was venting all of their frustration at whoever was in the immediate area.  Once they calmed down, they set about apologizing to people and cleaning up the mess that had been made.

Another child was having the same sort of rage incident at the end of the day, for a string of days.  After they were calmed down, they went into the fetal position and had to be carried out to the bus.  We later learned that there were some major struggles happening at home and this child didn’t want to go home to an environment that was totally out of their control.

Okay, yes, these children are behaving badly, but with good reason.  They don’t know how to express their frustration/hurt/anger in a socially acceptable manner (some don’t have verbal skills as yet).  Before you judge a teacher, parent, or child based on their bad behavior, try to consider what might actually be going on with the child.  It may help to remember that we all have good days and bad days and that no one is perfect.

*Pam Horton has been working with special education students for more than 15 years.

Let’s Celebrate Reading!

 March 2^nd is Dr. Seuss’s birthday.  It is also celebrated as Read Across America Day in many of our schools.

 I must admit, “One Fish, Two Fish, Red Fish, Blue Fish” was one of the first books our boys learned to read.  It was a fun rhyming book, and not too difficult (after it had been read to you a few times).  I must also admit, some of those books are tongue twisters.  “Fox in Socks”, whew, you have to read that one slowly.  Of course, The Cat in the Hat is a classic, fun story (and movie) that most children have had read to them.

 Dr. Seuss wrote over 60 children’s books.  His first one was “To Think That I Saw It On Mulberry Street.”  He also wrote books, like “Wacky Wednesday,” under the name Theo LeSieg.

 Did you know there are a couple of other authors who write in the same rhyming style as Dr. Seuss?

·         Robert Lopshire wrote “Put Me In the Zoo” and a few more.

·         P.D. Eastman wrote “Go Dogs Go” and many more.

 Back in September, we put in our monthly eNewsletter information on the importance of reading to children.  Here’s a snippet…

A bedtime story was always part of the bedtime routine for our kids (two boys, now grown with children of their own).  We started by reading to them, then we transitioned into reading “together” and then they read to us.  I think we stopped this when they got into middle school, but they continued to read at night, and both have a love of reading to this day.

 As recently as this spring, research studies are being done and concluding that reading gives children a fantastic head start in language, literacy and social skills.  See… http://www.pbs.org/newshour/bb/infant-reading-aloud-young-children-benefits-brain-development/  It’s a great “bonding” time with your child, as well. 

 If you haven’t been reading with your children, you still can make it a routine.

Reading together doesn’t have to be at bedtime.  It can be anytime like… before or after dinner, or first thing in the morning (if you are an early bird).  After school may not be the best time, as they may want to talk about their day, but if it works for your family, by all means do it then.

 If you have an interest in receiving our monthly eNewsletter, you can sign up in the right hand column of our web page.

 In honor of Dr. Seuss’s birthday, I have posted “One Fish, Two Fish, Red Fish, Blue Fish” to the Miss Pam Reads YouTube channel.  Check it out, with your kids!

*Pam is a certified Parenting Coach, in the Raleigh area.

Short and Sweet

Keeping it short and sweet this week.

I feel as if all I have been talking about lately is the upcoming Military Family Symposium 2018: Building Stronger Families. 

We have been working very hard to promote this amazing , FREE, event, and to make sure it runs smoothly. 

The symposium is TOMORROW!  Hence, this will be my last mention of it, for this year. Grin.

Thank you all for indulging my need to share good information.  If you are in the area, I hope to see you there.  If not... have an absolutely fantastic weekend!!!

You can pre-register here.

Sharing errors

In this day of social media, and the ease of instantly sharing information with the click of a button, I find it important to suggest that people check the facts before sharing errors.

Catchy graphics, and headlines grab our attention.  If the subject is something we have strong feelings about (good or bad) we are likely to read it.  Sometimes we are so moved by the information we feel the need to “share” it with our friends/contacts/network/followers/etc.  Sometimes that information is inaccurate.

What?  There is misinformation, or fake news, on the World Wide Web?  Say it isn’t so!

Unfortunately, it’s true.  Sometimes you will see a post about a person (especially a veteran, disabled person, or child), with a plea to “share” the information to help that person.  Do your research.  Often times, this is a phishing ploy and anyone who shares the post is caught in the web.  Sometimes they are legitimate, just be sure to check before you share.

Political posts.  Yeah, there is false information all over the place about politics.  If you feel strongly enough about the topic that you want to share the information, do your research.  Be sure the information is correct before you share.

Outdated posts.  It amazes me how old news becomes new just because someone shares it on social media.  When you read an article, look at the date it was written.  Yes, sometimes old news is worth sharing again, but when you do share it make sure you let people know its old news.  Often people will glance at it and share it, thus presenting it as current information, which is irresponsible.

Commemoration days.  This is a big one.  Someone will see a post that states “It’s (fill in the blank) day!  Share in honor of ___________.”   But, it’s not the correct day to commemorate that particular event/medical issue/etc.  One person shares it, their friends see it and share it, and the next thing you know, the country thinks its Valentine’s Day in June.  I know, that’s a bit of an obvious exaggeration, but you get the idea.

I’m sure none of us intentionally share misinformation.  I just happen to notice it quite a bit and thought I would bring it up.  Do your research.  Be sure the information is correct before you share.  Please refrain from sharing errors.

Night to Shine

As the Black Eyed Peas sing… “I gotta feeling that tonight's gonna be a good night. That tonight's gonna be a good night.  That tonight's gonna be a good, good night.”

 Friday, the 9th, is the night that 540 churches, around the world, will be hosting Prom Night for people with special needs, ages 14 and up.

 Why am I telling you this? 

·         One reason is that our church is one of the host sites and Jim and I have volunteered to help with the event

·         Another is that I have worked with special needs youth for over 14 years

·         And, we have a grandson who is non-verbal, autistic

This group of people are very near and dear to my heart.

 This event is run by the Tim Tebow Foundation.  Regardless of how you feel about the man, his heart is in the right place.  

 Occasionally, you may read about a “differently-abled” teen having a date to their high school prom, or even being crowned prom King or Queen.  Yes, that happens, and it’s terrific that it does.

 More times than not, though, this group is left out of fancy social events.  Often, the needs of the individual make it difficult to attend such an event.  Sometimes, it’s social awkwardness, or sensory issues.  It could be dietary, or medical issues. It could even be the financial burden, of proper clothing.  Sometimes, it’s just easier to stay home.

 This FREE event is offered mostly through donations of products and services, and run by volunteers. If this is a group of people that you have avoided because you are afraid or because you don’t know how to react, this is a fantastic opportunity to get to know them. Individuals with special needs are people, just like us.  They have likes and desires, just like the rest of us, and enjoy getting out to have some fun.  I’ve seen some pretty great dance moves, too!

 It’s too late to volunteer for this year, since the event is tonight, but go to the Night toShine website and check out all the information about the event and how you can get involved next February!

Chronic Illness

I have a new respect for those who deal with a chronic illness.

 I have been fighting bronchitis since the 1st week of November.  It gets better, only to relapse.  I have been on a steroid inhaler, which reduces my immunity, so… I ended up with the flu, which led to a relapse in the bronchitis recovery.  I have been on a number of medications for three months straight.  As the author of Pete the Cat writes… “Does Pete cry?  Goodness no.  He just keeps on singing….”

 As I was seeing the doctor and receiving three more prescriptions to try and knock all this out, the PA with her said, “At least you have a good outlook about all this.”  My response?  “What are ya gonna do?”  I’m not looking for your sympathy.  I’m hoping that you will have a new respect for those who deal with a chronic illness.

 I just did a quick search to find some definitive information on how many different types of chronic illnesses there are and the information varies.  It seems some are “avoidable” and/or “curable” while others are a lifetime illness.  Of course, you have to add the invisible chronic illnesses as well, like depression, anxiety, PTSD, etc.

 Let me suggest that, for this blog, a chronic illness is one that requires daily medications, or management techniques, and persists for a lifetime.  I do not consider my bronchitis to be chronic at this point and yet, I find it frustrating and disheartening at times.  That is why I have a new respect for those who deal with a chronic illness.

 Taking all the meds becomes routine after a while.  They can make someone feel better, which is good, but they can also make you feel worse (side effects).  We’ve all seen the commercials that talk about the horrible side effects of some medications and think, “Oh yeah, I want to take THAT.”  For some people the possibility of side effects is worth the chance to feel better.  It’s a rollercoaster ride that some people don’t have a choice but to step on.

 So, the next time you chat with someone you know who is dealing with a chronic illness, keep this blog in the back of your mind.  No, they may not be having a great day, but… cut them a little slack.  They may be having a wonderful day.  Be thankful and appreciate that person even more, as they fight for the joy in their lives.

 Remember to be kind to those you meet, for you know not their struggles.

 *Pam is a Board Certified Advanced Christian Life Coaching, in the Raleigh area.