I love to read

 While volunteering at the USO yesterday, I was tasked with restocking the bookcases that had been emptied to be moved.  I thoroughly enjoyed reading the title of each book as I set them up on the shelves.  I have read some of them, and found a couple that sounded so interesting I brought them home to read.  I love to read!

 My parents read to me as a child.  Having a story was part of my bedtime routine.  Consequently, we read bedtime stories to our boys.  Interestingly enough, while our boys remain avid readers, they never picked up the bedtime story routine with their children.

 I believe that children who are read to become readers, not just for school work, but for pleasure.

 My dad and my husband, Jim, can sit and read for hours!  I’m not quite that much of a reader.  I tend to read my learning books during the day and my pleasure books at bedtime.  In fact, if I don’t read before sleeping, I have a hard time going to sleep.

 Reading has MANY benefits.  Reading helps you

·         learn things

·         improve concentration

·         fall asleep

·         strengthen your imagination

·         reduce stress

·         improve memory

·         write better

 Speaking of writing, I not only love to read, but I love to write.  I have also discovered I enjoy doing research.  I am considering writing a book about some abandoned buildings in the area.  You KNOW there has to be a story there!

 So, how about you?  Do you love to read?  Do you write?  If so, we are kindred spirits. Grin. 

 Statistics say 33% of U.S. HS graduates will not read a book after they get out of school.  If that is you, have I convinced you about the value and fun of reading? 

 There are too many different types of books to even list here. It’s probably easiest to break it into the two main types… Fiction or Non-Fiction.  If you are new to the idea of reading… start with a fun fiction book.  Something that interests you, a real page turner.  I love historical fiction, but there lots of fiction options.

·         Mystery

·         Romance

·         Sci-fi

·         Fantasy

·         Suspense

·         Western

·         Christian

·         And more

With all the options, I’m certain you can find a book that would entertain you and keep your interest. 

 Consider all the benefits of reading and then… go ahead.  Pick up a book and get started.

*Pam Horton is an award winning author and speaker.  You can see her books on Amazon.com.  She has a YouTube Channel, Miss Pam Reads, where she reads children’s books for free.

April is my passion month

It seems like every month highlights at least a dozen different causes.

I have four things I am passionate about.
• Military Families
• Autism Early Education
• Hurting Teens/Twenty-somethings
• Encouraging others

The month of April has (among others)…

·         Autism Awareness

·         Gold Star Spouses Day

·         Month of the Military Child

·         Child Abuse Prevention

The month of April also has National Tartan Day, on the 6th, for those of us with Scottish ancestry. Just sayin’.

Of course, June is PTSD Awareness and November is Military Family Appreciation month, but April holds most of my passions in the same month, so you will probably see lots of things on my social media pages this month about Autism and Military brats (once a brat always a brat – HOOAH!). Although, that’s probably not any different than any other month, right?

Besides being active in the Autism community and the Military community, I have written some books that help increase awareness about autism and give hope to those who feel stuck in their current situations.

I believe it is good to support a cause you are passionate about. It helps us get out of our own little world to help and encourage others.

How about you? What causes do you support? What are you passionate about?

*Pam Horton is the coordinator of the Military Family Ministry at Hope Community Church in Raleigh.*

If you happen to be interested in learning more about some of the books I’ve written…

The Decision to Change is a light and easy read.  It is designed to encourage the reader that a person can, indeed, make a decision to change their current circumstances. 

Autism: Expressions of a non-verbalchild gives the reader a glimpse into the life of her non-verbal autistic grandson. Pam spent many years working with special needs students. That training has equipped her to knowledgably assist her family in getting the services her non-verbal autistic grandson needs.

Rory’s Story: Having an autistic brother was completely directed by six year old Rory Munt.. This is a sometimes funny, sometimes off-topic, and sometimes quite honest, personal look at what it’s like to be six and have a younger brother diagnosed with severe non-verbal autism.

Walk Confidently

 Do you ever “people watch?”  I do.  If I’m stuck waiting somewhere, it’s a great pastime.

A couple weeks ago, I arrived early to a meeting and was sitting in my car reading.  It must have been a shift change or something because there were lots of people exiting the building.  Not in mass, but every few minutes someone would exit the building or walk past my car.  Having great peripheral vision, every movement caught my eye.

As I glanced up to see various people walking, I began to notice the way they were walking. 
 I saw many people walking at a middle speed looking down at their feet.  Sure they looked up every now and then to make sure they weren’t going to get hit by a car in the parking lot, but most people were looking at the ground.

Then I saw this one guy, in a yellow shirt, exit the building walked very confidently.  He was walking at a brisk pace, but he didn’t seem to be in a hurry.  His head was up, he was looking around.  He even smiled and waved at a couple different people.  I would guess he knew them, but maybe not.  The way he walked got me to thinking, and watching others more intentionally.

Still, most of the people who exited the building were walking rather ho-hum, looking down.  I did see two women walk across the parking lot.  One walked pretty confidently, not quite as boldly as the man I saw, but she did pretty well.  The other one started out of the building looking at her phone.  Then she started to get a confident walk.  Then, she ruined it.   Yup, she got the ol’ “I’ve been practicing this” hip swing going.  I wasn’t impressed.

Anyway, I started thinking about what impression our walk gives others.  I would suggest that the man in the yellow shirt and the woman who walked boldly are probably self-aware, self-confident, positive people.   The other folks, shuffling out, eyes to the ground, looking like they carry the burdens of the world, were either having a bad day or aren’t particularly aware of the negative vibe they are giving off.

Have you ever thought about how others see you?  Are you carrying yourself as you truly are?  How is your walk these days?

If you walk like most of the people I saw, maybe it’s time to pick your head up and look life in the eye.  If you have a bad day every once in a while, that’s understandable, but if every day seems like a bad day maybe it’s time to talk to someone about how to get your positivity back.

The first step in change is awareness.  Check your walk, and then step out boldly, joyfully, and walk confidently!

Choosing Fear

This week we have had our two granddaughters visiting.  One is ten and the other is eight. 

 While they enjoy spending time together, they have very different interests.  One wants to do something while the other does not.  This has been leading to many opportunities for taking turns with decision making.  Of course, this usually leaves one girl happy and the other barely tolerant.  Then they switch roles, so they each get a turn at being unhappy with the other one’s decision.  Yes, it has been a challenge.

 One thing they absolutely loved was taking turns asking “Alexa” to play various songs.  Not my favorite music but, the girls were having a great time.

 At night we put a movie on and the girls drift off to sleep.  This was a major point of contention as the younger one was afraid of most of the movies the older one wanted to watch.  A couple of these were totally ridiculous movies to be afraid of (Mary Poppins and Enchanted).

 The older one wanted to watch Enchanted, but the younger one was afraid of the “scary lady” she saw on the DVD cover.  If you’ve ever seen Enchanted you know it’s more funny than scary.  The only scary part could be at the end when the evil queen turns into a (not so scary) dragon.

 I do need to say that the younger one has seen, and loves, Maleficent.  Now THAT could be scary.  So, we knew that Enchanted would not scare her, and yet… she refused to watch it because she thought it would be scary from looking at the cover.

 You know the old cliché “Don’t judge a book (or movie) by its cover.”  Classic case here.  Last night we told the younger girl that we were going to put on Enchanted.  She could choose to watch it or not.  She watched it.  And LOVED it!  This morning she even asked to watch it again.

 How many times do we choose not to do something because we are afraid?  It’s something we’ve never experienced before but we think it will be scary, so we avoid it.  How many opportunities have been missed because we’re choosing fear? 

 It’s possible, and this story is the evidence, that something we think will be scary is actually fun.  However, we will only experience the fun if we actually try it.  If you get part way through something and don’t like it – stop. 

 Okay, you can’t stop a thrill ride in the middle.  That one you’ll have to complete, then you can say, “Yeah, I didn’t like that, it was scary” and never do it again.  At least you know for sure and you aren’t choosing fear because you think it will be scary.

 Be like the old Life cereal commercial, “Try it. You’ll like it.”  You just might.

 *Side note – I’m not advocating you try anything illegal, immoral or unethical.

 *Pam Horton is a Board Certified Advanced Christian Life Coach, in the Raleigh area.*