I happened upon a video this morning about how your
thoughts control your feelings. I
thought it made such a good point that I was going to be lazy and just post the
video link in this week’s blog and get on with my day. BUT after the very good point came a very
strong sales pitch. I don’t like a
strong sales pitch. So, I choose not to
share the video with you. I’ll recap it
for you…
As I have posted, many times, your thoughts effect your
feelings and your actions, so try to keep your thoughts positive. That’s today’s message in a nutshell,
grin.
This particular video addressed having your feelings
hurt, by others. We all know people who
are sensitive and get their feelings hurt easily. However, their feelings are hurt because they
allow their thought process to be negative.
For example…
If someone comments that you aren’t very strong, and you
happen to be a very fit and fairly strong person, you think, “They have no idea
what they are talking about.”
On the flip side, if someone comments that you aren’t
very strong, and you are out of shape and aren’t very strong, you might think,
“They are right, I’m a weakling.” You
might even take it to extremes and think, “I’m fat, weak, ugly, my hair is a
mess, my outfit doesn’t look good. I’m
worthless.”
It wasn’t their words that hurt your feelings, it was
your thought process after the words were said.
The trick is to change your thought process.
For example:
If someone comments that you aren’t very strong, and you
are out of shape and aren’t very strong, you could think, “It doesn’t matter
what they think, I like me just the way I am.”
OR “Yeah, I’ve been thinking I need to get in shape. It’s time to buckle down and take my health
seriously.” If they happen to be a good
friend or family member, you may even ask them to work out with you.
Yes, people can be jerks and some people enjoy saying
mean things to push other people’s buttons and watch them get upset. You don’t have to let them have that control
over your thought process. Find a way to
keep your thoughts positive and you will discover your feelings aren’t being
hurt as much and you have a more positive outlook on life.
(Okay, here come MY really strong sales pitch)…
Have a great weekend!
